--- product_id: 148565965 title: "The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making Hardcover – May 7, 2019" brand: "jared yates sexton" price: "€ 38.35" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 11 url: https://www.desertcart.hr/products/148565965-the-man-they-wanted-me-to-be-toxic-masculinity-crisis store_origin: HR region: Croatia --- # The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making Hardcover – May 7, 2019 **Brand:** jared yates sexton **Price:** € 38.35 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making Hardcover – May 7, 2019 by jared yates sexton - **How much does it cost?** € 38.35 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.hr](https://www.desertcart.hr/products/148565965-the-man-they-wanted-me-to-be-toxic-masculinity-crisis) ## Best For - jared yates sexton enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted jared yates sexton brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Full description not available ## Images ![The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making Hardcover – May 7, 2019 - Image 1](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41uihIKR34L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ One of the most important books of the year--maybe of the early 21st century *by H***E on Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2019* Sexton's latest book is both a unique work and an incredibly important one. Combining memoir with political science, it takes a deeply personal and unflinching look at the ways men suffer in our society--white men in particular--and how they turn that suffering outward to inflict pain and misery on the world around them.If you're right cringing now because you don't think we ought to be coddling the tender little fee-fees of straight white men while so many other people are fighting for basic human rights--and fighting AGAINST straight white men, the demographic which is so determinedly invested in denying basic rights to all others--hold up. Give the premise of this important book a chance. This is not a whinefest of "aggrieved entitlement," as Sexton puts it--not a Red Pill tantrum about how nobody has it harder than white men, not some crackbrained Jordan Peterson rant. There is no Alex Jones chest-thumping or screaming about red-blooded American males here; just plenty of first-hand experience with indoctrination into brutal, painful, soul-stifling traditional modes of masculinity, and an honest, often emotionally raw assessment of the damage our cultural systems do to boys and the men they grow up to be.Sexton traces the path of our current traditions of masculinity from the Greatest Generation and the end of WWII through Vietnam, several economic recessions, both wars in Iraq, showing how they all have led in a straight line to our present political climate in the United States--and our social climate, rife with gun massacres, rising misogyny and homophobia/transphobia, unchecked racism, and... Jesus... need I go on? Everything.The trajectory of patriarchal masculinity is illustrated by touching episodes from the author's own life, from his earliest memories of his mother and her several abusive husbands, his biological father's disdain for him as a "soft" boy, his striving to become the type of man everybody expected him to be (the ONLY acceptable version of a man if you were born in the mid-80s or earlier), his struggles with alcoholism, eating disorders, and suicidal ideation throughout his young adulthood. All the while, Sexton deftly weaves in data from sociological and anthropological studies and anecdotes from American politics that support his memoir like a grim yet necessary framework.This book provides the most direct and honest look into the wounded soul of the American male--a wound of his own making, to be sure, but a wound which must be healed, for it afflicts every person in our culture regardless of gender. Fortunately, it doesn't take too much reading between the lines to suss out a likely cure. Sexton's skilled narrative can provide a roadmap for casting off damaging, always-false, always-restrictive gender expectations and moving forward as a whole society with all its members healthy, self-actualized, and full of love.If you are a man or if you know and love any men or boys, this is an absolute must-read. I cannot recommend it highly enough. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Important and Crucial Insights Into the Skewed Approach to American Masculinity *by D***H on Reviewed in the United States on May 13, 2019* Jason Yates Sexton has written a terrific book on the dangerous concepts that define toxic masculinity. A must-read in this time of escalating violence against women and society. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Truthful, brave and wise *by A***R on Reviewed in the United States on June 8, 2019* This book made me see ALL of the men in my life … past and present … in a clearer, truer light. 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