--- product_id: 449612119 title: "The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst" price: "€ 83.82" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 8 url: https://www.desertcart.hr/products/449612119-the-betrayal-bind-how-to-heal-when-the-person-you store_origin: HR region: Croatia --- # The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst **Price:** € 83.82 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst - **How much does it cost?** € 83.82 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.hr](https://www.desertcart.hr/products/449612119-the-betrayal-bind-how-to-heal-when-the-person-you) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst [Mays LPC CSAT-S, Michelle] on desertcart.com. *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst Review: You're not crazy - what you're feeling is normal! - This book does an amazing job at helping a betrayed spouse understand the chaotic and conflicting emotions swirling around them after the discovery of their spouse's betrayal, providing validation and comfort, and explaining why all of these feelings are absolutely normal and can be expected. Michelle Mays looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we're closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. It's that break in the relational bond that leads to those emotions that can make a betrayed partner feel crazy: "I want to be comforted by the person I'm closest to. But the person I'm closest to is unsafe and I need to get away from them!" This is what Mays calls attachment ambivalence, and her explanation and normalization of this part of healing from betrayal is so thoughtfully explained and helps comfort the reader. Reading about the entire attachment process in our lives, and how our attachments can be disrupted with betrayal, throwing us into the cycle of ambivalence, made so much sense to me, and helped me feel like I wasn't crazy. The other part I found the most profound and helpful was her six phases of the Braving Hope process. Here she describes the six phases betrayed partners go through on the path to healing. Like anything else, it's not always linear for each person, but the descriptions and stated goals of each phase were distinct and I could identify my own timeline within many of those phases. (I'm definitely not at the last two phases yet myself.) I also appreciated that this book is written for both those who choose to stay and rebuild their relationship, as well as those who choose to leave and heal on their own. There's no pressure in the book to choose one way or the other, and support is provided for either path, as well as for those who are just choosing to not make a choice for now. Too often books on betrayal tend to focus on just rebuilding the relationship or starting over. Both are acceptable choices here, and the focus of this book is primarily focused on healing yourself, regardless of which choice you make, because whether you stay or go, you will still have to go through the grief and healing regardless. The Betrayal Bind provides a thoughtful analysis of the human attachment system and why betrayal hurts so much because of that system, and ends with a clear, detailed roadmap on the steps to move through the pain and trauma and find healing for yourself. My only suggestion would be to add a companion workbook for betrayed partners to use when working through the six phases. Review: Very helpful for helping - I’ve read many books trying to heal after my husbands betrayal. This book was so helpful! This is by far the best of the betrayal books. I pray for the person reading this review I pray for your healing and that this book blesses you as much as it blessed me. Thank You to the author for putting her experience and wisdom into a book that helped me so very much. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #254,717 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #27 in Marriage #650 in Popular Psychology Counseling #979 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 580 Reviews | ## Images ![The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71gIAE9jJaL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ You're not crazy - what you're feeling is normal! *by B***Y on March 9, 2023* This book does an amazing job at helping a betrayed spouse understand the chaotic and conflicting emotions swirling around them after the discovery of their spouse's betrayal, providing validation and comfort, and explaining why all of these feelings are absolutely normal and can be expected. Michelle Mays looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we're closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. It's that break in the relational bond that leads to those emotions that can make a betrayed partner feel crazy: "I want to be comforted by the person I'm closest to. But the person I'm closest to is unsafe and I need to get away from them!" This is what Mays calls attachment ambivalence, and her explanation and normalization of this part of healing from betrayal is so thoughtfully explained and helps comfort the reader. Reading about the entire attachment process in our lives, and how our attachments can be disrupted with betrayal, throwing us into the cycle of ambivalence, made so much sense to me, and helped me feel like I wasn't crazy. The other part I found the most profound and helpful was her six phases of the Braving Hope process. Here she describes the six phases betrayed partners go through on the path to healing. Like anything else, it's not always linear for each person, but the descriptions and stated goals of each phase were distinct and I could identify my own timeline within many of those phases. (I'm definitely not at the last two phases yet myself.) I also appreciated that this book is written for both those who choose to stay and rebuild their relationship, as well as those who choose to leave and heal on their own. There's no pressure in the book to choose one way or the other, and support is provided for either path, as well as for those who are just choosing to not make a choice for now. Too often books on betrayal tend to focus on just rebuilding the relationship or starting over. Both are acceptable choices here, and the focus of this book is primarily focused on healing yourself, regardless of which choice you make, because whether you stay or go, you will still have to go through the grief and healing regardless. The Betrayal Bind provides a thoughtful analysis of the human attachment system and why betrayal hurts so much because of that system, and ends with a clear, detailed roadmap on the steps to move through the pain and trauma and find healing for yourself. My only suggestion would be to add a companion workbook for betrayed partners to use when working through the six phases. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Very helpful for helping *by D***R on January 29, 2026* I’ve read many books trying to heal after my husbands betrayal. This book was so helpful! This is by far the best of the betrayal books. I pray for the person reading this review I pray for your healing and that this book blesses you as much as it blessed me. Thank You to the author for putting her experience and wisdom into a book that helped me so very much. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A lifesaver for betrayed partners *by G***M on March 8, 2026* A must read for anyone who has been betrayed. I am forever grateful for Michelle Mays and the work she does for betrayed partners. I LOVE that an audio feature is available with this addition. It is wonderful listening to Michelle read the book. ## Frequently Bought Together - The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst - The Aftermath of Betrayal - Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.hr/products/449612119-the-betrayal-bind-how-to-heal-when-the-person-you](https://www.desertcart.hr/products/449612119-the-betrayal-bind-how-to-heal-when-the-person-you) --- *Product available on Desertcart Croatia* *Store origin: HR* *Last updated: 2026-08-17*