--- product_id: 587886802 title: "Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing: The powerful memoir from the beloved star of Friends" price: "€ 18.25" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.hr/products/587886802-friends-lovers-and-the-big-terrible-thing-the-powerful-memoir store_origin: HR region: Croatia --- # 4.6/5 from 50K+ readers Raw, unfiltered memoir 7M USD rehab journey Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing: The powerful memoir from the beloved star of Friends **Price:** € 18.25 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 🔥 The memoir that reveals the real cost of fame and the power of redemption 📖 ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing: The powerful memoir from the beloved star of Friends - **How much does it cost?** € 18.25 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.hr](https://www.desertcart.hr/products/587886802-friends-lovers-and-the-big-terrible-thing-the-powerful-memoir) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Exclusive Insider Stories:** Hear untold tales from Hollywood’s golden era and the real cost of stardom. - • **More Than a Celebrity Memoir:** A powerful narrative that transcends fame, offering hope to those fighting their own battles. - • **Unmasking Fame’s Dark Side:** Dive deep into Matthew Perry’s candid battle with addiction beyond the Friends spotlight. - • **A Journey of Survival & Sobriety:** Experience the gripping story of near-death, recovery, and relentless hope. - • **Critically Acclaimed & Bestselling:** Join 50,000+ readers who rated this memoir 4.6 stars for its brutal honesty. ## Overview Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing is Matthew Perry’s brutally honest memoir chronicling his rise to fame as Chandler Bing, his decades-long struggle with addiction, and his journey to sobriety. With over 50,000 reviews averaging 4.6 stars, this bestselling book offers raw insights into Hollywood’s highs and lows, addiction’s toll, and the hope found in recovery. ## Description 'There's never been a more honest or raw memoir . . . and it may just save lives' Daily Mail 'Funny, fascinating, compelling . . . also a wonderful read for fans of Friends ' The Times 'HI, MY NAME IS MATTHEW, although you may know me by my full name. My friends call me Matty.' So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who travelled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us . . . and so much more. In an extraordinary story that only he could tell - and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it - Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he's found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humour, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fuelled it despite seemingly having it all. 'An unflinching and often harrowing must-read for 90s pop culture fans' Guardian 'Written with Chandler's trademark sarcasm and self-deprecation' Telegraph 'A hopeful read . . . I started to think of [it] not as a celebrity memoir about addiction, but as an addiction memoir written by a man who understands his own history through the prism of showbiz' Independent Review: A Brutally Honest Portrait of a Chronic Addict - Wow! For many years I'd heard that Matthew Perry had had serious problems with drugs and alcohol, but I was absolutely stunned by the intimate revelations contained in this audiobook. By any logic, Perry's substance abuse should have killed him by now: his twin addictions to liquor and opiates should have ended his life many years ago. It's an absolute miracle that the TV and movie star has made it to 53 years of age. Fortunately, Perry has survived for long enough to write and record this brilliant memoir. I found this audiobook to be utterly compelling: I listened to it all in just two days. This memoir is really two books in one. At one level it chronicles the life of a wannabe Canadian actor who migrates to Hollywood as a teenager and ends up living the American Fantasy, staring in the most commercially successful sit-com ever and making many millions of dollars. But on another level it's the sad and appalling tale of a deeply damaged human being who spends decades battling with his crippling addictions. This level was for me the most interesting. The book begins in 2018, when Matthew Perry experienced the worst day of his life. While living in a rehabilitation facility with his female "sober companion" Perry suddenly experiences crippling stomach pains. The actor instantly realises that something is seriously wrong. After defying the facility's staff, who believe the actor is just faking it as an excuse to leave and get high, Perry is rushed into a local hospital by his companion. While there, his colon "explodes" and he ends up in a two-week induced coma. He will eventually be required to wear a colostomy bag for months. The colon problem was caused, of course, by his drug and alcohol addictions. It's this incident that finally causes Perry to for-once-and-for-all confront his demons. Perry then takes us back to his childhood, which is, of course, the cause of all his troubles. Soon after Perry's 1969 birth in Massachusetts to a Canadian mother and an American Father, the future actor's parents relocate to Ottawa, Canada, where Perry spends his next 15 years. Sadly, Perry's parents divorce before their child's first birthday and the father decides to return to the United States. John Perry heads for Hollywood, hoping to make it big as an actor. Back in Canada, Matthew Perry leads an unremarkable life: he's an average student but does become a decent tennis player, good enough to be ranked nationally. He has his first drink at 14 and instantly falls in love with alcohol. His mother remarries and has four children with her new husband. Matthew now becomes the outsider in the new family unit; he also begins to argue bitterly with his mother. The foundations of his self-destructive life have been laid. Aged 15, Perry decides to join his father in California. He had been routinely visiting John from the age of 5, always travelling alone as an "unaccompanied minor" because his parents couldn't stand the sight of each other. Perry is traumatised by those long, lonely flights to this day, he states. The unhappy child being shuttled back and forth across the North American continent grows up to be the unhappy adult who feels unlovable and who is terrified of commitment. Like many thousands of others who go to Hollywood, Matthew Perry decides that one day he is going to be rich and famous and even kneels down and prays to God for it to happen. For some reason Perry believes that fame and money will fill the "hole" inside him. Later, he discovers that it absolutely won't. After years of minor roles and failed projects, in 1994 Perry finally hits the big time with Friends. Suddenly, he and his 5 other co-stars are the most famous faces on television. But his life soon begins to fall apart. After a minor accident Perry quickly develops an addiction to prescription opiates, which, coupled with his long-term dependency on alcohol, causes his life to spiral out of control. Soon, his ability to lead anything remotely like a normal existence is severely affected. Perry's weight fluctuates and he is reduced to filming his movies and TV shows between stints in rehab. At one point he has to abandon the shooting of a film because he is too sick with his addictions. Like I stated earlier, this memoir is really two books in one. Perry's recollections provide a fascinating insight into the American entertainment world of the Eighties, Nineties and beyond. The unknown Perry of the pre-Friends days scrambles around Hollywood looking for any acting work while drinking and partying with his young buddies. At times he and his pals are down to their last few dollars. But when mega-fame comes, jealousies quickly emerge. One of Perry's closest friends abandons him and he doesn't see him again for two years. Perry also senses resentment from his own father. And just how much luck played a part in Perry winning the role of Chandler Bing will amaze you. But the addiction part of the book is fascinating too. Sometimes this memoir reads like an odyssey of rehabilitation institutions. Perry has travelled from as far Switzerland to Utah and all over the US in his search for a cure to his problems. The actor estimates that he has spent in excess of 7 million US dollars on therapy and his stays at various rehabilitation units. He is very bitter at this, at one point questioning their usefulness and railing against their greed. His illness has cost him a considerable chunk of his fortune. The book ends on a positive note. At the time of finishing the writing of the memoir, in early 2022, Perry has been clean for some time. He has even managed to kick smoking after his doctor warned him that he was risking developing emphysema by the age of 60. The actor still lives with the sober companion and spends much of his time helping other addicts and campaigning for better understanding and help for other people with substance abuse problems. Sadly, Perry has never married nor had any children. The actor's chronic inability to commit to a woman is highlighted throughout the book. Over-and-over-again during his adult life he has dumped girlfriends, convinced that they were about to leave him anyway. The agony of being abandoned by a woman is something his delicate psyche just can't cope with, and so he won't risk it. He even dumped Julia Roberts! This self-loathing is the key to understanding Perry's addictive personality: he just doesn't love himself enough. This is a superb memoir. It's brutally honest and very insightful. Worryingly, Perry's voice on the audiobook is that of an old, weary man. The actor sounds like someone in his seventies rather than a person of just 53. And recent pictures of Perry are shocking: he looks nothing like the beautiful young screen performer who was a heartthrob to millions of girls in the Nineties and the early part of this century. The drugs and alcohol have taken a devastating long-term toll on his health. But at least he's still alive. Review: A great insight into his life and that of an addict. - Friends was a massive part of my early adult life, as I am sure it was for most of us. I religiously watched every episode as it came out and loved all the characters equally. It was a great show with the best kind of friendships and I’m sure we all wished we could be in their shoes. Through Matthew’s autobiography, he shows that even with money and fame, it can’t buy happiness and love. If you are hoping for a book filled with lovely snippets from Friends, then you will be disappointed. Yes, there are mentions but this book is about Matthew’s addictions and fighting his demons. We are taken through his younger years to adulthood. Having fairly high profile parents who divorced in his younger years, seems to have had Matthew craving attention. It was sad to read how important it was for him to always be the funny guy and make people laugh. It’s as if he was performing constantly. His addictions started with alcohol, smoking and then drugs which made for some emotional reading. Again, even with all his money and the therapy, he spent years battling to try and gain some control over it. I love his honesty throughout and it can’t have been easy to open up to this scale. I never realised how close he came to death numerous times and the amount he was drinking, smoking as well as drugs that he abused his body with daily. It made for some scary and heartbreaking reading. It saddened me seeing how much he wanted a normal life, to get married and to have a family and of course, in the end, he never did find it. In the aftermath of Matthew Perry’s death, this is a great insight into his life and that of an addict. I hope it helps others that are dealing with addiction and hopefully they find the help they need and what works for them. It was inspiring to read of how much he does for other addicts whilst still facing daily battles himself. His relationships with high profile ladies somehow made it even more sobering as again, he just seemed to be on self destruct. Thank you Matthew for all the laughs you gave us, I just wish you could have found the happiness that you brought us over the years. ## Features - New Store Stock ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | 3,551 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) 7 in Alcohol & Drug Abuse Biographies 17 in Theatre & Performance Artist Biographies 28 in Actors & Entertainers Biographies | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 50,554 Reviews | ## Images ![Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing: The powerful memoir from the beloved star of Friends - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71aVGWARVoL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A Brutally Honest Portrait of a Chronic Addict *by B***Y on 6 November 2022* Wow! For many years I'd heard that Matthew Perry had had serious problems with drugs and alcohol, but I was absolutely stunned by the intimate revelations contained in this audiobook. By any logic, Perry's substance abuse should have killed him by now: his twin addictions to liquor and opiates should have ended his life many years ago. It's an absolute miracle that the TV and movie star has made it to 53 years of age. Fortunately, Perry has survived for long enough to write and record this brilliant memoir. I found this audiobook to be utterly compelling: I listened to it all in just two days. This memoir is really two books in one. At one level it chronicles the life of a wannabe Canadian actor who migrates to Hollywood as a teenager and ends up living the American Fantasy, staring in the most commercially successful sit-com ever and making many millions of dollars. But on another level it's the sad and appalling tale of a deeply damaged human being who spends decades battling with his crippling addictions. This level was for me the most interesting. The book begins in 2018, when Matthew Perry experienced the worst day of his life. While living in a rehabilitation facility with his female "sober companion" Perry suddenly experiences crippling stomach pains. The actor instantly realises that something is seriously wrong. After defying the facility's staff, who believe the actor is just faking it as an excuse to leave and get high, Perry is rushed into a local hospital by his companion. While there, his colon "explodes" and he ends up in a two-week induced coma. He will eventually be required to wear a colostomy bag for months. The colon problem was caused, of course, by his drug and alcohol addictions. It's this incident that finally causes Perry to for-once-and-for-all confront his demons. Perry then takes us back to his childhood, which is, of course, the cause of all his troubles. Soon after Perry's 1969 birth in Massachusetts to a Canadian mother and an American Father, the future actor's parents relocate to Ottawa, Canada, where Perry spends his next 15 years. Sadly, Perry's parents divorce before their child's first birthday and the father decides to return to the United States. John Perry heads for Hollywood, hoping to make it big as an actor. Back in Canada, Matthew Perry leads an unremarkable life: he's an average student but does become a decent tennis player, good enough to be ranked nationally. He has his first drink at 14 and instantly falls in love with alcohol. His mother remarries and has four children with her new husband. Matthew now becomes the outsider in the new family unit; he also begins to argue bitterly with his mother. The foundations of his self-destructive life have been laid. Aged 15, Perry decides to join his father in California. He had been routinely visiting John from the age of 5, always travelling alone as an "unaccompanied minor" because his parents couldn't stand the sight of each other. Perry is traumatised by those long, lonely flights to this day, he states. The unhappy child being shuttled back and forth across the North American continent grows up to be the unhappy adult who feels unlovable and who is terrified of commitment. Like many thousands of others who go to Hollywood, Matthew Perry decides that one day he is going to be rich and famous and even kneels down and prays to God for it to happen. For some reason Perry believes that fame and money will fill the "hole" inside him. Later, he discovers that it absolutely won't. After years of minor roles and failed projects, in 1994 Perry finally hits the big time with Friends. Suddenly, he and his 5 other co-stars are the most famous faces on television. But his life soon begins to fall apart. After a minor accident Perry quickly develops an addiction to prescription opiates, which, coupled with his long-term dependency on alcohol, causes his life to spiral out of control. Soon, his ability to lead anything remotely like a normal existence is severely affected. Perry's weight fluctuates and he is reduced to filming his movies and TV shows between stints in rehab. At one point he has to abandon the shooting of a film because he is too sick with his addictions. Like I stated earlier, this memoir is really two books in one. Perry's recollections provide a fascinating insight into the American entertainment world of the Eighties, Nineties and beyond. The unknown Perry of the pre-Friends days scrambles around Hollywood looking for any acting work while drinking and partying with his young buddies. At times he and his pals are down to their last few dollars. But when mega-fame comes, jealousies quickly emerge. One of Perry's closest friends abandons him and he doesn't see him again for two years. Perry also senses resentment from his own father. And just how much luck played a part in Perry winning the role of Chandler Bing will amaze you. But the addiction part of the book is fascinating too. Sometimes this memoir reads like an odyssey of rehabilitation institutions. Perry has travelled from as far Switzerland to Utah and all over the US in his search for a cure to his problems. The actor estimates that he has spent in excess of 7 million US dollars on therapy and his stays at various rehabilitation units. He is very bitter at this, at one point questioning their usefulness and railing against their greed. His illness has cost him a considerable chunk of his fortune. The book ends on a positive note. At the time of finishing the writing of the memoir, in early 2022, Perry has been clean for some time. He has even managed to kick smoking after his doctor warned him that he was risking developing emphysema by the age of 60. The actor still lives with the sober companion and spends much of his time helping other addicts and campaigning for better understanding and help for other people with substance abuse problems. Sadly, Perry has never married nor had any children. The actor's chronic inability to commit to a woman is highlighted throughout the book. Over-and-over-again during his adult life he has dumped girlfriends, convinced that they were about to leave him anyway. The agony of being abandoned by a woman is something his delicate psyche just can't cope with, and so he won't risk it. He even dumped Julia Roberts! This self-loathing is the key to understanding Perry's addictive personality: he just doesn't love himself enough. This is a superb memoir. It's brutally honest and very insightful. Worryingly, Perry's voice on the audiobook is that of an old, weary man. The actor sounds like someone in his seventies rather than a person of just 53. And recent pictures of Perry are shocking: he looks nothing like the beautiful young screen performer who was a heartthrob to millions of girls in the Nineties and the early part of this century. The drugs and alcohol have taken a devastating long-term toll on his health. But at least he's still alive. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A great insight into his life and that of an addict. *by S***. on 2 January 2024* Friends was a massive part of my early adult life, as I am sure it was for most of us. I religiously watched every episode as it came out and loved all the characters equally. It was a great show with the best kind of friendships and I’m sure we all wished we could be in their shoes. Through Matthew’s autobiography, he shows that even with money and fame, it can’t buy happiness and love. If you are hoping for a book filled with lovely snippets from Friends, then you will be disappointed. Yes, there are mentions but this book is about Matthew’s addictions and fighting his demons. We are taken through his younger years to adulthood. Having fairly high profile parents who divorced in his younger years, seems to have had Matthew craving attention. It was sad to read how important it was for him to always be the funny guy and make people laugh. It’s as if he was performing constantly. His addictions started with alcohol, smoking and then drugs which made for some emotional reading. Again, even with all his money and the therapy, he spent years battling to try and gain some control over it. I love his honesty throughout and it can’t have been easy to open up to this scale. I never realised how close he came to death numerous times and the amount he was drinking, smoking as well as drugs that he abused his body with daily. It made for some scary and heartbreaking reading. It saddened me seeing how much he wanted a normal life, to get married and to have a family and of course, in the end, he never did find it. In the aftermath of Matthew Perry’s death, this is a great insight into his life and that of an addict. I hope it helps others that are dealing with addiction and hopefully they find the help they need and what works for them. It was inspiring to read of how much he does for other addicts whilst still facing daily battles himself. His relationships with high profile ladies somehow made it even more sobering as again, he just seemed to be on self destruct. Thank you Matthew for all the laughs you gave us, I just wish you could have found the happiness that you brought us over the years. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Recommend! *by J***J on 14 April 2026* Overall, I loved reading this however it was a tad repetitive. I thought there was going to be more on friends but it’s mainly about “the big terrible thing”, which is still interesting to read about but it’s just not quite what I was expecting. 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