The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

I read this book last year during a parent coaching program and it is absolutely excellent! They discuss how to show up with safety for our children not just physical safety, but emotional and psychological safety and how to build a secure attachment with our children. A secure attachment with our parents is the foundation to becoming a secure adult. This book shows you how to do that. This book emphasizes the basic needs we have in relationship which is to feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure.

Even if the children are grown, there is still a lot that can be done. For them and for ourselves. I love being able to reclaim my past without judgement and a clear forward path.

Based on brain attachment research the book successfully posits that the key to a child’s developmental and functional success is in creating strong attachments by simply showing up. Showing up means providing four key but necessary conditions the children in order for their brains to remain calm and attached to the care giver: Safety so the child can feel confident in taking risks. Seen so there’s an understanding of the emotion. Soothing iso the child can cope with your steady support. Security so the child is assured they she can count on you consistently. This book is invaluable for any parent or professional who works with trauma informed children. Understanding the connection between the brain, emotions and behaviors will help you to better understand and support the child.

I bought this for a college class and it’s an excellent read. Came in great condition. This book is for anyone to read even if you aren’t a parent!

The book helps you build a mental model for how to emotionally support your kids that can be applied throughout parenting from infant to adolescence. Appreciated the vignettes and tactical actions paired with the theory of secure attachment.

Very clear and relatable, a lot to add to ones parenting and understanding ones parenting and relationship with ones children based on upbringing as a child. Very helpful and a lot to think about. Really opens the door for attachment understanding

This book was really important for me. I had broken my attachment to my children through not caring for myself and harsh parenting. I didn’t understand what had gone wrong, and it hurt me so deeply. I felt like I was in a cycle of unending disappointment. I learned in this book that my kids were actually showing me their need for me when they got upset and that it was an opportunity to soothe them. I found so much hope because I learned that I could heal my mistakes and my past. I am so grateful to these authors because they gave me the hope and practical tips I needed to remember who I was before the depression set in. It showed me that I also had a chance to heal my children’s future and make a way for my grandchildren to have a better life if my children decide to have them. I’m so grateful. I have learned to show up for myself, to be more self-compassionate and to give myself the safety I need so that I will be able to help my children better.

I've always been a fan of Dan Siegel's and Tina Bryson's books. In this book, they did a deep dive into the attachment theory (which is research-based and is NOT the same as attachment parenting). I've read about the attachment theory multiple times in the past, but this book has one of the most detailed and easy to understand explanation of the theory that I've seen. The book goes into details of the different attachment styles and provides examples so that parents can reflect on their own childhood's attachment style as well as how that might be affecting their current relationship with their child.

Lots of stories to fill the pages but not much of practical advice.

While this book is great for anyone wanting to being a better parent. It's exceptional for those grew up with parents who were not exactly outstanding. It provides an understanding of what was lacking in their approach, and as a consequence now in yours. That, in turn, can transform your view of yourself and your approach to parenting in a very positive way. While my child is still in grade school, and my parenting mistakes have been many (on every level), this book was an epiphany. Suddenly my upbringing (and whole live) made perfect sense and my path to better parenting became crystal clear.

Fast delivery and a book worth reading.

Item as described. Arrived promptly

I recomend.