The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Awesome book especially if you’re trying to not give a F about what other people think about you great author.

(listened on Audible, and read the book) First, I am 43 years old. I found this book as one of the best in my collection of learning. (Napoleon Hill, Tony Robbins, Don Ruiz, David Brooks, Steven Covey). This book is another excellent asepct to learning about self awareness, values, entitlement, responsiblity, choice, and death. Also has a great understanding through his life experiences and a lot I can relate. I was skeptical about the name of the book and bought this book thinking it was about a 'who cares mentalility' and not caring. After reading it, realized t approaches ithe opposite then most self help books. Its unorhtodox in using the language in ways that create a different perspective. So, why the negative reviews? well lets state what the book says it is: "learning how to focus and prioritzie your thoughts effectively-- how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values." I suspect a lot of people were offended perhaps because they experienced the negative and want to blame the book for their not getting it when they got older? Life is a lesson, always. This book is a good one to get if you are young, but great if you have a teenager or nephew or family member whom you want to understand or reach. why? You learn to understand how to communicate. Note: it's not always about you. "the desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience." A lot of people whom review this book I have noticed are stuck in the 'i want it my way' and not seeing the forest for the trees. Maybe not everything is relevant to you, but then what is? its about seeing outside yourself and not being so self centered. Foundations of understanding and not knowing is a good way to help others and understand others. Too many people think they know. forget knowing, and understand. Chapter titles are decieving and offensive to those whom might have a aversion to direct offensive approaches. If you don't like them, then well, read another book. Don't take a book by its cover they say. Well don't think you KNOW by reading the chapter titles. 1. Don't Try 2. Happiness is a problem 3. You Are Not Special 4. The Value of Suffering 5. You are Always Choosing 6. You're Wrong About Everything 7. Failure Is the Way Forward 8. The Importance of Saying No 9. . . . And Then You Die "Conflict is not only normal, then; it's absolutely necessary for the maintence of a healthy relationship." Enjoy!

This is one of the best books I have ever read. The information that is in the book is to scary and at the same way helpful. In the middle of reading this book I felt like, then what is the point on living? Why just don't die if we are going to do it anyways. I started to feel strange inside of me. I was scared because everything he writes about Is true. We all try to hard on impressing people. Try hard to make big goals and try to achieve them. But in the end we do it not for ourselfs we do it for the attention we will get in the result for that. We are not special, but in the same time we are. We are all unique bit not more special than the others. We live our life trying to be "successful" and convince ourself that it is because we want it for us. But in some cases we are not. We (and when I mean "we" I mean myself) try so much to achieve goals working hard everyday trying to come closer to that goal. But when I readed this book my eyes opened. I was wrong. I was not doing it for myself. I was doing it to prove others I am worth of their attention. Because I wanted to feel special because yeah. I always said to myself "nobody work hard enough for success so I am special I work harder than the others and that is why i deserve it more". I was every day working hard, I did not want to accept it but when I readed this book it really hurted me. I felt like he was 100% seeing through me. I felt like my life was pointless. All I did, the goals I was pursuing was only to make other think in the future. "Wow he is special. He worked hard to obtaining he's goals. He is inspiring". I wanted to show the people that made me feel bad about myself see me in the future and look up on me and say to themselves. "Well I think I am the real loser". But in this book I began to think. I was always looking at other people judging them about being at their 30-40 having a s***ty job, family, complaining about everyone and everything etc. Or the ones on my ages always working hard, making fools of themselves trying to get the attention of others. Or people screaming at others just to feel like they are better than the other person. I always felt sorry about them. When reading this book I realised I am exactly at them. We live our whole life trying to be somebody. When the real thing we should do is try to be the person we want to be. But it is not easy. The society always look up to successes and winners but never at the ones that are not that "successful" but are happy. And that make us all feel like we are not enough. Which we think is true. We give fu*ks about so many things that are not really important and that does not mean anything at all. The fact that we are going to die is terrifying. Not because we don't know what comes next, it's because, we thing yeah if we all will die then what is the point of trying? That's the reason this book is good it does not just make you unsure about all your beliefs. It also makes you realise that it does not mather at all if you are going to die. The real problem is what you should care about while you are alive. The old lady crossing the road in the pace of a turtle. Or the really fact that we are alive and are able to choose what we want to care about. Why did i writte a so long post? Well because if this can help somebody in my situation it will be nice. And the other reason was for myself. Because even if I say I don't care I actually care about what others think about me, and even if you don't know me in person. Knowing someone readed this and got the inspiration to read the book then it's enough for me. To feel like I did something good. And the third reason is because I liked the super hero "Disappointed Panda". He is cool and I would like a hero like that. Instead of the false super heroes that lies to others just to get liked by them. So this is an executive book. It gives a new way to look at things. I really recomend it for the people that are tired of this world and the humans on it, and even worst that tries way to hard to imprese those humans you hate, because you were told that is the right way to fulfill yourself. "You should do like the rest",they said. It does not help in the long run. It have never and will never!

This was an amazing eye opener, without the usual fluff and adherence to conventional “ wisdom”. It is a truly inspirational book that actually wakes up so many lingering thoughts and truths in one’s mind. It is a wonderful read for the open minded…

This book is amazingly helpful at how to look at life better and deal with things better. The author is also truly effing hilarious. You will not stop laughing. I'm sorry I didn't get this book sooner. I think he's got some of the best philosophies I've ever heard. Seriously, everyone should read this book. Order it. Now!!

respond." I find a book with the F word in the title pretty hard to resist, which is why I chose to buy this one, even though I hate self-help books. The first few times I read the F word in the book, I smiled. Eventually, it stopped being funny. I think that several of the ideas in this book make sense, for example (p 7), "...we humans have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts." Thinking about your thinking, I think, is an important part of good mental health. The author gives the example of situations involving a couple of musicians. One's less success than expected bothered him a lot, the other guy realized that things turned out well for him in spite of the fact that he was kicked out of the Beatles and replaced by Ringo. In fact, he provides lots of examples like this. He also debunks the whole Power of Positive Thinking concept, saying that all that positive thinking happens because we think that the way we are without those affirmations is somehow not okay. I'm not a proponent of affirmations, so I'm not sure I have an opinion on that. There are a few other concepts that I remember off the top of my head that are useful, that of having to work really hard to be really good at things (the 10,000 hours of Gladwell's Outliers), the fact that You Are Not Special (wish my acquaintances could say that about their kids and themselves), the fact that most struggle with mortality and although we all know we are going to die someday, we don't (can't) deal with that in a healthful way. It's not so much that I don't like the author's ideas or in your face writing style, it's more the fact that I find others' ideas more useful. For example, best book of all time on this subject: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Content of the Subtle Art pales in comparison. Coming Home: Uncovering the Foundations of Psychological Well-being by Dr. Dicken Bettinger and Natasha Swerdloff is also better...but you have to have a certain level of background knowledge about this thinking about your thinking to "get" that book. Also, The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters by Emily Esfahani Smith has a few flaws, but overall, is a really useful book that explains that searching for happiness is not the path to happiness. Doing good deeds will lead to happiness (as my existentialist son points out, we do nice things for people because it makes us feel good, a point about which I can't disagree). In summary, while the author makes a few good points in this over the top in your face sort of story, by the end, the novelty of excessive F Word usage wore off. A better book (besides the ones already mentioned) 10% Happier by Dan Harris. Entertaining, useful...and very few swear words.

Mark Manson’s book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” presents a refreshing and unconventional approach to self-help, focusing on embracing life’s limitations and focusing on what truly matters. Here’s a detailed review: Pros: 1. Straightforward and Honest: Manson’s writing is blunt, humorous, and filled with profanity, which makes the book engaging and relatable. He doesn’t sugarcoat his advice, making it refreshingly honest. 2. Counterintuitive Approach: The book challenges the typical self-help narrative that promotes constant positivity. Instead, it emphasizes the importance of recognizing and accepting our limitations and flaws. 3. Practical Advice: Manson provides actionable steps for readers to apply his concepts in their lives. He encourages readers to focus on values and priorities that truly matter, rather than striving for constant happiness. 4. Engaging Stories: The book is filled with personal anecdotes, historical references, and humorous examples that illustrate Manson’s points effectively. These stories make the concepts more relatable and memorable. 5. Focus on Values: Manson highlights the importance of choosing values that are meaningful and rejecting those that are superficial. This focus on values helps readers identify what is truly important in their lives. Cons: 1. Profanity: The frequent use of profanity might be off-putting for some readers. While it adds to the book’s candid tone, it may not appeal to everyone. 2. Repetitive Themes: Some readers might find the themes repetitive as the book reinforces its core messages throughout. However, this repetition can also help solidify the concepts. 3. Pessimistic Tone: The book’s focus on embracing negative experiences and limitations might come across as pessimistic to some readers. It’s important to approach the book with an open mind to fully appreciate its perspective. Overall: “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson is a thought-provoking and entertaining read that challenges conventional self-help advice. Its honest, no-nonsense approach encourages readers to focus on what truly matters and let go of unnecessary worries. Despite some minor drawbacks like the use of profanity and a potentially pessimistic tone, the book’s practical advice and engaging storytelling make it a valuable addition to the self-help genre. - I personally like the profanity, lol!

I picked this up for a long flight and ended up finishing it before we even landed, which never happens for me. The author basically calls out all the ways we convince ourselves we're working toward something meaningful when really we just want people to be impressed, and it stung a little because he was right. It's funny too which makes it way easier to get through than most self help stuff. Genuinely changed how I think about what I actually care about versus what I think I should care about.

Ottimo libro! Divertente e terribilmente vero! Questo libro è praticamente un accountability partner!

Good book this one

Good quality, fast delivery and amazing price. Bought it as a gift.

It really teaches you to not give a F!

Excelente libro!! muy divertido, pero al mismo tiempo te hace pensar y llena de buenas ideas.