Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Ways to Create More Love and Less Conflict

My partner and I read this book together, however if your partner does not want to read a book but you still want to argue less (or more constructively) this book is still good. The authors approached to solving conflict is very strait forward, the book is short and right to the point. This book provided some very helpful tips on what to do when you and your partner are getting heated. We are not perfect however I will say, we talk to each other differently since reading this book.If you find that arguments with your partner are getting out of hand, I would recommend this book!

As a marriage therapist, I'm always looking for books that can streamline the complicated subject of couples communication and make it usable for real people. Robinson hits it out of the park.He describes his points richly so that you really get it at a gut level and you can see yourself using his tools. The main points are easy to remember, and his how-to's very doable.His idea of the self-esteem bank account is spot on. We all love to connect with our partners when it makes us feel better about ourselves. If it makes us feel like crap, we naturally find other things to do!One thing I particularly love is how Robinson describes some non-verbal techniques without making them sound so far-out no normal person would do them.I always like to be objective and point out the cons as well as the pros, but I honestly can't think of any cons about this book. Well done!

Following upon the suggestion of another reviewer, my partner and I have been spending 1-2 hours a week reading this book aloud to each other, pausing to discuss points that seem important. The breezy style annoys me, but Robinson's analysis is a simple, pithy and brief review of good communication skills not only for couples but for all individuals who find themselves in conflict. We have studied many of these techniques for years, but still find our hair on fire rather frequently--we are volatile, stubborn and overly educated. Why another book, then? Because this one distills much that's been theorized over the last 30 years and puts it into an accessible format. It doesn't, of course, address the deepest questions of the human condition. It may help you understand what makes your partner feel loved and how that's different from what makes you feel loved--valuable information--but what does one do faced with the revelation that one or another has NEVER felt loved and all a companion's best efforts just swirl into the drain of existential loneliness? Just for example. Reread Kierkegaard maybe. I'd recommend this book as a portable, easily understood, thorough grounding in the subject. Perhaps I'll update when we're finished discussing it.

This book has practical, understandable steps for building health into relationships. I appreciate the way this writer acknowledges the separation that can happen on three levels; heart, body, and mind, and then offers healing direction which is specific to that type of damage. This book calls you to action, and offers do-able instructions for that action. The author offers insight into how to determine whether you are succeeding as you try his advice, and what the next step may be whether the answer is hopeful or disappointing. Intimate (in many forms), transparent, united, secure, safe, real, enjoyable, giving, loving... Here is a manual to build the relationship, beginning with where you are today. Many thanks to the author for his humble and generous spirit in sharing this.

There are two books that I recommend every single person to read before dating and every couple to read. One being the Passion Trap by Dean C. Delis and the other being this book. Both I have purchased multiple times. The help this book offers is worth every penny. It sheds a whole new light on communication. In fact if you were considering couples therapy, neither of you would need it if you both followed the suggestions in this book. I bought it because I was dating a very insecure person who made wild assumptions due to bad communication in his past relationships. This helped quite a bit.

A relationship counselor recommended this book and she definitely was on the mark. There's great points that can be applied to not only intimate relationships, but work or friendship relationships too. It's not a one-size-fits-all book, but I guarantee there's something for everyone to take away from this book. Relationship crisis or just insight, I recommend reading this.

My husband insisted on buying this book for both of us to read on Kindle. I didn't really feel like having to read another self help book, but I began to read it slowly, when I found myself with a little spare time. I think I've got through about 4 chapters so far, and he read maybe one. Hmmm. Anyhow, so far, we have learned and discussed ACKNOWLEDGEMENT - which is the first thing the writer tells you to do with your partner. I don't think he meant to literally always say the actual word, per se, but we have made an effort to try this. The other principles to use that follow, are solid advice too. I am trying to be more APPRECIATIVE of my husband's efforts on my behalf. I did find one suggestion in this book a bit funny, as in "not sure if we would be comfortable". It is the one about stopping during an argument and spooning - I just find that a tad unrealistic when we are ticked off at each other, although I got the gist of it. We are still trying to figure out time outs to shut up and chill a bit. I do plan to continue to read a bit more of this book, because I think there may be something useful to take away from it in the end. I just have a hard time making myself read books, instead of being online 24/7.

Love it!

Ein must - read book! Ich bin begeistert. Verstehe meinen Freund nun wirklich viel besser und unsere Kommunikation hat sich verbessert.

The author truly hit some "pain points" in human nature & helps to think about it deeply so that we better behave in the future with our partner (and relatives).

I stumbled on this book while I was looking for communications skills as a whole and can't express how happy I am. The content of this book is easy to follow yet rich, practical and insightful. Some of the concepts can be applied to any type of relationship. I'm not married myself but I have seen plenty of old relationships that are still suffering from blames and lack of intimacy with the same root causes as described in this book. There is a summary of methods explained at the end of the book which is very helpful for future reference.

My husband and I were so close to calling it quits. I had bought the book but was done. My husband picked up and started to read it one day. I came home to man that understood that my emotional needs had never been met and he promised me he was going to change. He has stayed true to his word and I have never felt so good in our relationship...I love loving him, I see his happier, and I know I am happier.It is so simple: appreciate; acknowledge; and accept. I have been applying it my profession as a Human Resources person with my struggling employees - what is missing in these three areas? So simple yet the essence of what we are always seeking.Thank you! Thank you!