Beautiful Boy: A Heartbreaking Memoir of a Father's Struggle with His Son's Addiction and the Journey to Recovery

this book is the most glorious, heartfelt, poetic, gut-wrenching book i have ever read in my whole life. its nothing but a masterpiece compiled inside pages and pages of perfectly used words. this book is so well written too, it truly shows how it feels to have someone close to you fall into an addiction and the shared struggles throughout it. its enough to make a grown man cry (much more than a 15 yr old). its raw, its real, and its tear jerking. i HEAVILY recommend getting this book- it really is beautiful.

"Fortunately I have a son, my beautiful boy. Unfortunately he is a drug addict. Fortunately he is in recovery. Unfortunately he relapses. Fortunately he is in recovery again. Unfortunately he relapses. Fortunately he is in recovery again. Unfortunately he relapses. Fortunately he is not dead.” In Beautiful Boy, David Sheff recounts his son’s struggles with addiction. Nic’s drug of choice is Methamphetamine, well known for being one, if not the hardest drug to stay in recovery for. Sheff talks about his difficulty coping with his son’s addiction, rehab stays, and subsequent relapses. Sheff’s story is heartbreaking, and gut wrenching. He is very real about his emotions. From his shame of having an addict for a son to the happiness he feels from thinking about Nic before his addiction changed him. He speaks often about how he wants to feel hope that each trip to rehab will be the one that keeps him clean, but how it would be easier for him if he just gave up and save himself from the heart ache. I appreciate that Sheff does not hide his emotions, nor does he hide his own drug use when he was younger. While some may leave out this fact he is frank about it, even adding in that at one point Nic asked if he wanted to smoke Marijuana with him and he agreed desperate to have something that he could use to connect with his son. He laments a few times that he wishes that he never did. While Sheff did drugs when he was younger he was blindsided when he found out Nic was also doing them. He says that parents tend to ignore the signs of addiction in their children, hoping that it’s not true and he and his wife are no exception to this. He wishes that he could do more for his son. Nic is in and out of rehab. He worries constantly about his son’s well being. It is not just Nic who suffers, his family does as well. Sheff struggles with explaining Nics illness with his younger children, unsure of how much to tell them. This is something that I never thought about, how much do you tell small children when their older sibling has an addiction. I don't know if Sheff handled this correctly but it seemed okay to me to explain that he is ill, but try to keep them away from the effects that the drugs have on him. His choice to lie by omission must have been a difficult choice for him to make. Sheff’s honestly makes for a heartbreaking story. A great read, especially for those who know someone struggling with addiction. I am grateful for his ability to share his experiences without sounding disconnected and bland. I had fears of this but it did end up reading like the memoir it is. “Fortunately there is a beautiful boy. Unfortunately he has a terrible disease. Fortunately there is love and joy. Unfortunately there is pain and misery. Fortunately the story is not over."

I really liked this book purely as a story for its own sake. I have not had nor been close to a serious drug/alcohol addiction so did not relate to it on that level; and when the author got bogged down in things like the chemistry of addiction, I skimmed those passages. What I did really find compelling was how well the author conveyed the range of emotions he went through, and how well he was able to express his love of life and appreciation of everything beautiful in life despite his son's addiction. He also did a spectacular job of describing parenthood in general - all the ups and downs that go with it. And I really appreciated, especially at the end, that the book really is what it's subtitled: the father's journey, not the son's. What I found annoying however was the son, Nic. He comes across as a spoiled brat, addiction or not. This is not to say that I blame the father/author for Nic's addiction - I don't - but Nic got on my nerves as a main character in this book. So his parents weren't perfect and got divorced - welcome to the USA in the new millenium, kid. He had up to four parents who doted on him, and had every advantage of being an upper middle-class young white American male. The opportunities never stopped - private school, a summer in Europe, a job offer in China - all set up by others for this overindulged brat. Did he ever have to do a thing for himself? The thing that made me the sickest though was when the author mentions that someone asked Nic to write his memoir. Yet another opportunity given to him through no effort of his own. I'm sure that most addicts - not just the children of well-known authors who have a history of helicopter parenting - have that chance, right? And, spoiler alert, I googled Nic Sheff to see what he has made of his life. He's now written two books about, what else?, being an addict. Does he have any sort of identity outside of this? Does he do anything without mommy and daddy's connections? I loved the ending for the book, which is to say for the dad, but there's no chance I'll be reading the son's books. I'm glad he is surviving his addiction, but he doesn't seem to have done much with his life beyond exploiting that fact.

This was a helpful resource to understanding the struggle for a family watching a loved one going down this path. I had little to no understanding about drugs, addiction, and the hold they can have on someone and this book really helped to clarify some of those things. It helped me to forgive my cousin and to understand that past a certain point that she was not longer "choosing" the drug. It brought me to tears reading this families story, but it was enlightening.

Storia molto toccante.Libro arrivato puntuale ed in perfette condizioni unica pecca che è in inglese

Le récit d'un voyage au bout de l'enfer pour un père et son fils qui ne peut pas vous laisser intact, une fois celui-ci achevé. Je vous le conseille grandement

Written by the father, this is a very confronting read about a son who became addicted to strong drugs at a fairly early age; his parents loved him through all the tough times and he tried very hard to wean himself off the drugs by various means, sometimes managing to stay clean for a couple of years however, in the end his father had to acknowledge his son was beyond help as he enjoyed the "highs" the drugs gave him. I was in awe of his father's patience and could well understand why, in the end he had just to stand back and love him regardless.

Escrita fluida, extremamente pessoal e sincera. Inglês acessível para quem já tá começando a ler obras no original. Adiciona-se ao fim do livro um posfácio interessante sobre o panorama da droga pelo mundo, exclusivo desta edição britânica, além de um capítulo inteiro (bem grandinho, por sinal) do Tweak, livro do Nic Sheff, contando sua versão da história. Leitura que complementa o filme... para as telas, não foi adaptado nem 50% do livro. Aqui, o pai tem muito mais a contar, vivenciar e dividir conosco sua angústia e culpa. "how can you help someone who doesn't want to be helped?"

Todo súper bien