Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity Paperback – November 1, 2009

This book was very helpful in our marriage. It’s best to read it together!

I highly recommend this book for couples who want to heal after an affair that can devastate a marriage. It's a serious book with a serious topic but has a good amount of humor to lighten up a topic to make the reading very enjoyable and enlightening.

This is personal for me, but if Gary and Mona can share--I can too. In our case, I cheated on my wife. There is nothing in the world that will excuse me for what I have done, and nothing that will ever help me forget the pain and suffering I have caused my wife. I found this book while searching for answers on how to go about fixing my marriage, and it has been an INCREDIBLE resource.It took me reading this to understand how important complete honesty is in order to recover our marriage. It is not an easy thing to sit in front of the woman you love and married as she asks you questions, and admit openly and without reservation that you betrayed her in affairs with other women. I can easily say it has been the most difficult task of my entire adult life, bar none. This book shows you how that honesty, while impossibly painful for you and your spouse to discuss, is the first building block of trust that you will come too."Unfaithful" goes further to discuss the different processes of recovery, and how they coped through it all. They are unapologetically open and direct, always encouraging, and give hope in every paragraph that you read. Most importantly, they have helped me to focus on God in my life, and how to lean on him for the support to overcome impossible odds.We are not out of the woods yet, and still have plenty of hard work ahead of us. However, we are committed to God, ourselves, and each other. I can not recommend this book highly enough to anyone going through this awful mess, and I will pray for anyone who finds themselves in circumstances that land them in the midst of the pages.Gary & Mona, thank you for this. You've been a gift from God to me.

This book is real. Real conversations, real examples & a real heart to help marriages struggling w/ infidelity.Gary & Mona Shriver share their story of how a one year affair PLUS another short term fling nearly ruined their married. Nearly, but it didn't. They open up & share on what the reasons were that led to the affair, how they waded thorough deciding whether to work it out or give up & how they were able to get back on track. They openly share their passion to help other couples who are wondering what just happened to their lives & who feel like they're all alone.I really loved this book & the fact that they shared from THEIR own personal experiences w/o holding back, for the readers' sake, made me connect w/ them even more. If you're looking at this book, chances are you've been affected by an affair, in one way or another. Pick up this book, open up your heart & let the healing & hope begin.

Gary and Mona are fantastic. Their willingness to be open and raw about their own process and the hurt and pain on all sides helped us process it ourselves. Their advice on being completely open (subject to the wise advice/limitations in the book of asking sincerely “do you really want to know” of the spouse before answering a detailed/sensitive question) is fantastic and has led to more openness than ever before in our marriage. God gets all the glory for speaking to my spouse but this book is a big help and I’m very thankful for their writing.

I've never read this author before and I have to say while I hated the circumstances that brought about my reading this book, I found the book itself very hopeful and encouraging. It chronicles another couples' journey and struggles in overcoming an affair. It's split into parts and sides (Example: It tells the wife's version of an event then it tells the husband's and so forth and so on). The only negative I had about it was it didn't always answer all my questions about how and what to do with certain areas of things, but I didn't really expect it to because my personal situation wasn't exactly the same as theirs and nobody's is so no other couple can really honestly tell you how to fix your own marriage. However, if there was to be a book out there that gave me the most hope and helped me understand that everything I was feeling and doing was normal and not psychotic, then this would be the book. Thanks to the Shrivers for their openness and honesty!

A good explanation of the pain of adultery and what healing looks like. The Shrivers both share their experiences giving insight into how both spouses coped.

I'm going to share some personal information but I don't mind sharing to help other Woman going through the same thing. My husband made the worst mistake of his life 9 years ago(that's what he calls it). He had an affair and as soon as I found out about it he has done everything in his power to make our marriage right. If some of you woman are going through this right now than I want to tell you that it can get better and your marriage can become stronger. If your partner is willing to do the hard work and truly commit to it like my husband has, than you CAN get to a place where I'm at right now. This book, infidelity workbooks, counseling, communication and hard work can keep you in a loving, healthy and happy marriage. I know because Im living proof.... 22 years of marriage and still going strong!